关于幸福的思考

day 13 2024/01/03 关于幸福的小感想

幸福是一个很玄的东西，很多人拥有了很多，但是他很不开乐，2023有句很好玩的话叫，我不要你觉得，我要我觉得！很适合界定真正的幸福！幸福不是脸上的虚荣，而是内在的需要；幸福不在别人眼中，而在自己心间。所以，只有你觉得幸福了，才是真幸福！世界纷纷杂杂，很多人被各种外界的声音乱了耳，烦了心！如果你感受不到幸福，哪怕非常忙，请你

每天都要有点独处的时间，因为：定能生慧。

有位智者也说：人生最好的境界是丰富的安静。我们不仅需要一段时间的安静，到了一定年纪，我们更会享受所有安静的时光。

很多纷纷扰扰的事，我们都会在这安静的时间里给自己捋明白，所以，别走太快，等一等灵魂。通过与自己的对话，倾听内心的声音，我们能获得更多人生智慧，重拾内心的纯真和宁静！为什么孩子很容易觉得幸福，会为了吃到一个糖葫芦，看到一个风车由衷微笑！因为他们简单！简单地活在当下，不会回忆襁褓之中的趣事，也不会焦虑以后求学是否艰难！

而这，恰恰也是我们成人的心累之处，我们想太多，遗憾以前，焦虑以后！想太多，反而失了从容！所以，幸福就是最好的准备，最坏的打算；所以，幸福就是尽人事，听天命。这是世间最大的从容。

幸福，应该是你发自内心的一种感觉。

所以，我们应该学会爱自己，爱自己应胜于一切。每次我儿子跟我说，妈妈，我最爱你了！我每次都跟小孩子说，此生最爱永远都是自己，但是真正学会爱自己却要好多的修行，有些人终其一生也没有学会，一辈子跟自己较劲，对自己的人生各种遗憾！如果觉得菜淡了，就加点盐吧；觉得洋葱无味，就加个鸡蛋吧。

你的幸福，由你决定。

所以，当下一次感到悲催的时候，千万别再将手指向别人。沉静下来，与心对话，告诉自己学会看你生命里闪光的地方，学会欣赏无边星夜里那些闪烁的星星，而不是哀伤于漫漫黑夜

请记得，黑夜终将过去，黎明一定会到来，再此期间，请欣赏星河璀璨，人生滚烫。         

A Few Thoughts on Happiness

Happiness is a mystical thing. Many possess a lot, yet they are not joyous. In 2023, there was a funny saying: "I don't want you to think, I want to think for myself!" This suits defining real happiness perfectly. Happiness isn't about vanity on the face, but rather an inner need; it doesn't reside in others' eyes but within one's own heart. So, only when you feel happy is it true happiness! The world is full of chaos; many are disturbed by external noises, troubling their ears and minds! If you can't feel happiness, even if you're extremely busy, please make sure to have some alone time every day because that's when wisdom arises.

A wise person also said: "The best state in life is rich tranquility." We not only need moments of peace but as we age, we'll cherish all quiet moments even more. Amidst all the commotion, during these peaceful times, we untangle everything for ourselves. Hence, don't walk too fast; take a moment for your soul. Through conversations with oneself, listening to the inner voice, we gain more wisdom in life, reclaiming our innocence and tranquility within! Why do children easily feel happy, sincerely smiling at having a candied fruit skewer or seeing a windmill? Because they are simple! They live simply in the present moment, not reminiscing about past interesting incidents from infancy, nor anxious about the difficulties of future learning!

And yet, this is precisely where the weariness of adult hearts lies. We think too much, regret the past, and worry about the future! Thinking too much leads to losing composure! Hence, happiness is the best preparation, the worst assumption; thus, happiness is doing one's best and accepting fate. This is the greatest composure in this world.

Happiness should be a feeling that comes from within your heart.

Therefore, we should learn to love ourselves; self-love should triumph above all. Every time my son tells me, "Mom, I love you the most!" I always tell children that in this life, the most enduring love is for oneself. However, truly learning to love oneself requires a lot of practice. Some people never learn it throughout their lives, constantly struggling with themselves, having various regrets about their lives! If the dish tastes bland, add some salt; if the onion lacks flavor, add an egg.

Your happiness is determined by you.

So, the next time you feel down, never point fingers at others. Calm down, converse with your heart, tell yourself to learn to see the shining parts of your life, learn to appreciate the sparkling stars in the boundless night sky, rather than being saddened by the vast darkness.

Please remember, the dark night will eventually pass, dawn will surely come. During this time, appreciate the shining stars in the galaxy; life is scorching!